Over at Vox's, debate, rather discussion, rages about whether or not a man's work is harder than a woman's and whether he should or should not help her with household chores. I've left several lengthy comments in Haloscan over there, so I thought I'd spare Vox and the Volk my rantings and thrust them upon my adoring public.
Points in no particular order (you know I love a good list):
* Heavy labor is more difficult than household chores. Mining and hunting for missing socks do not require the same energy or applied power or strength, no.
* If the most difficult physical thing you do in your jobs, gentlemen, is walk yourself to the men's room, while your wife is at home wrangling children, grocery carts, and laundry baskets up flights of stairs...keep your yap shut. (Yeah, DC, I'm not the only one who can dish it out.......honey chil'! Heehee!)
* Don't play one-upsman with your spouse at the end of the day, and I'm speakin' ta both husbands and wives, when he or she is sharing about his or her hard day. This is a request for understanding and compassion, not for a "Well, you think that's horrible, just let me TELL you!" rebuttal. You're teammates, remember?
* Is it really so awful to help out with the things she cannot reach or the things she's not strong enough to do? Is it so bad to help with diaper changes, 3 am. feedings, the kids' baths? Do you not want to serve your wife and your family? Do you not want to spend time with your kids?
* Is it really so awful to get up early and fix him breakfast before he leaves? It it so awful to iron his shirts? (Well, if you stink at it and can afford the dry cleaner bill, send the shirts and suits to be laundered---better for his professional image.) Don't you want to serve your husband?
* Most men want to come home to quiet, orderly houses with food ready to eat. I've heard and read this one. I get it. Why don't some wives get it?
* Sometimes, dear husbands, your wives just want a show of manliness from you...some risk-taking, adventurous action; some heroic feat...may just be killing that bug that just made her squeal. May be showing her that you can carry all the bags of garbage out at once. Or hauling more bags of groceries in than she can. (I'd LOVE for my husband to do that. I have to make 10 million trips from the car. And those plastic bags cut into the soft skin of my hands!) I dunno. I trust Nate and the other Natenick men could give a better list.
* Appreciate her, appreciate her, appreciate her. With compassion, compassion, compassion. Learn her love language. Thank her. Praise her. Thank her in front of people. Praise her in front of people. And when she's not present too. Know when and when not to tease her about being a goofball.
* Respect him, respect him, respect him. Praise him. Thank him. Brag on him. Encourage him. Follow his lead. Bite your tongue in the moments you think he's being idiotic. Let him see you drool over him...I mean about him. Near him? Oh, confound it! You get the idea.
See all I know and have learned? And I'm not even married yet.
What pearls of wisdom have you to share? (Keep it SFW, please.)